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MY ENCOUNTERS WITH THE POLICE
My experience with police well they said if you do not pay 10000 rs rhen I will file an fir against you that you torture your wife for dowry . unfortunately I recorded it and sent it o lokaayukta in Bangalore and got them arrested . If people had followed the news of auditor suresh th isis he.
But frankly I wonder if we tax payers have appointed people to demand money from citizens and called them police then I think we wonder right
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Right to information Act and judiciary
very important information if we want to retain the citizens control over institiutions
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A tale of 4 couples : saga of dowry laws, suicide and murders
The source is the national crime bureau of India . We just have to look at the suicide statistics of India as reported by them .
498a is the most dvisive law made in India to divde in the basis of gender
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Amits suicide note : Amit killed becuase his wife threatened to file false dowry case not adultery
You are killing me with kindness.
The first person from any wifes side who has displayed understanding.
The law has to be defined in SMART fashion that is "Specific,Measurable,Attainable,Reliable and Timebound" goal.
The 498a by a clear look is not . Neither is the domestic Violence Laws. Nobody knows why they have been arraigned in these laws. I as a judge can very well decide while having breakfast this is a crime and this not a crime becuase of the current way it is defines.
So the only workable solution is that these laws be removed.
Why should we ever arrest someone without proving a crime . The only reason is frankly if it is part of organised crime network. There is frankly never any other reason to arrest anyone otherwise. It is becuase of India's Arrest before proving method of exection that you have 85% of people in Jails are innocent ( not convicted but undertrials ) .
Liberty is priceless and as equal to life . When restricting anybodies liberty lots of thought has to be given before doing that . The 85% to 15% undertrial/Convict ratio in India tell a very sad story .
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Brides can no longer commit crime of false dowry and 498a allegations
Contact your local SIF helpline
the list is their in the following link
www.savefamily.org
or www.saveindianfamily.org
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Amits suicide note : Amit killed becuase his wife threatened to file false dowry case not adultery
Thanks Ankush
I am glad for your clarification . Yes I am aware that many have published that rinku had no intention of filing under section 498a or dowry laws at the time of marriage had broken apart.
I will accept your words as it is and neither will believe nor will disbelive what you say . I say there is no evidence of Amit being a criminal minded before he committed the crime
I accept your hurt, validate it and sympathise that an innocent rinku was murdered .
I have long visited the site which you have said and appreciate the response.
In terms of Amit not meaning Divorce usually it is men who mean divorce in finality or reality when they utter it. I have a far better understanding of the broken marriage situations.To say that a man can mean divorce is useless becuase man can getting a divorce is a novelty in India as there are still men who filed for divorce 16 years , 17 years , 18 years ago and still fighting .
Saying that Rinku was in an abusive relationship as you have said is unfortunately the next step towards filing of Dowry and 498a . You may not have intenteded it but how much of that temptation could she and as her family you resisted. Also as I said we have such evidences and you do not so I will just have to take ti like a general statement that every women these days occurs.
To us every case of marital breakdown is important to analyse and as you have recieved 78 comments in her favour . you should not worry about a few which do not blame Amit
If the longest running divorce case by men in India had been 4 years , If when evidences re presented the prosecutions had been stopped , Quashed. Then the potential reality that faced by Amit would not have been What I assessed. OF course whther the separation would have been peacefull or fighting was a choice that was available to you maybe you would have , maybe you wouldn't have . I cannot predict the future what would have been
If I sound sceptical about what you say it is becuase I have vast experience in this field . The problem is that men have been completely cornered , stripped and mercy of the women in their lifes when one should be at the mercy of the evidences in the arena of the family courts.
Wifes and their families have misused Dowry and section 498a left , right anad center. Dowry law and section 498a has been injurious to the life of too many innocent men , women and their families. Rinku just was the latest victim of the current construction of the law.
To ignore this truth is to shut our eyes and ears to reality .
I the end why should we only analyse Nisha case when we think of Dowry laws why not about the cases I mentioned, about Azim premji cases , about Le meridian Case where in the le meridian owner showed video recording proof still our legal system wants to prosecute.
In every broken marriage Dowry laws and 498a are always thought of and threats overtly or covertly threatened becuase it is as easy as ordering a pizza . Rinku and her family may have become an an exception but unfortunately they were not given a chance to be that exception .
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How we planted Gherkins ......... and Beena decided to buy cows....
This definitely classifies as domestic violence ( insults and taunting to reduce the confidence )
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A tale of 4 couples : saga of dowry laws, suicide and murders
thats because of brainwashing done over last years that people do not want to listen to men . So men have just decided to walk off the legal system and find that the only way to be ride of the abuse from wife is to kill her . There is no other option available for men to escape abuse
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Amits suicide note : Amit killed becuase his wife threatened to file false dowry case not adultery
Thanks . I also have enough friends in infy who also knew amit and will agree that unless provoked to the hilt he would not do what he did .
I am just giving a parallel which happens in every broken marriage and make no mistake the threats of women mentined are serious and realistic
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